“Wake up for your life and not to your life.”- Kat Lee (Titus 2 Minute Podcast)
I was listening to a podcast this morning and I heard this sentence and resonated with it so much. I have always talked a lot about how important it is to wake up with Jesus. But more recently I’ve recognized the importance of waking up before everyone else in my house to do so. I’m really hoping this post will inspire you to do the same.
The night I decided to start waking up before everyone was about a year ago. I had a 6 month old who wasn’t sleeping through the night and I had 5 kids home all day due to the Big “C” hitting our nation. A crazy time to decide to make this decision, no doubt. For years I had reasoned that waking up before everyone else was too much. And that I needed my rest to be a good mom and wife. But that night as I sat on my friends couch, my heart changed. We were chit chatting with chips and salsa and blankets over our legs and she was telling me how tired she was from work, kids and life. I nodded along in total agreement. But then she told me God whispered to her “you don’t even know what tired is.” Poof! In that moment, all I could think about was Jesus carrying the cross. I discreetly pulled out my phone and set my alarm for 5:45 AM. She had no idea the impact that conversation had on me. Since that night, I have woken up “for my life and not to me life” like Kat Lee said. I originally thought I needed rest to be the best I could be. And I do need rest. But even if it’s 5 minutes before my first baby wakes up, what I actually need most is Jesus before everyone else.
How I’ve been able to do this and some tips to help you do it too:
Be Committed- Do it no matter what. Even if you wake up late or the baby wakes up earlier then normal and you only get 2 minutes with Jesus, it’s worth it. I love how Kat Lee said on the podcast: in a basketball game, the team only gets a 30 second time out/reset and we see how often it can change the whole game for the team. Well, the same goes for our lives when we take that time out with Jesus.
Phone away until you pray– This is the golden rule for me. Starting the day with a stressful email, text or social media post is the worst way to wake up. Starting the day with a cup of coffee and in prayer just sets the tone. And funny enough, it can often lead to a better response to those ugly things we will read or need to respond to. We are better for it and so are our relationships. Not to mention, it can easily suck you in and suddenly you have no time with Jesus.
Simple is sufficient– Our time with Jesus isn’t about what we accomplish, it’s about building our relationship with Him. It doesn’t have to be a 30 minute Bible study. Sometimes we push off our time with Jesus because we believe we won’t have enough time and then we never end up doing anything. But you would never tell your husband or kids before they leave in the morning that you “can’t give them a hug and an I love you” because you don’t have time to watch a whole movie with them. So we shouldn’t do that to the Lord either. Acknowledge Him first thing. Walk with Him throughout the day and then when you get time to dig in, do it then. He sees the season you are in. He will meet you where you are.
I hope this story and these tips change your whole day!
Lord, we can’t do life without You. Help us to walk step by step with You and acknowledge you always. You are our priority so please help us to keep You First. We love you. Amen.
I don’t know about you, but as a wife and mom, there are many days I wake up a bit overwhelmed by the tasks that have to get done, the conversations that have to be had and also the emotional and spiritual things that need to be addressed. I wonder how and when I should take on each and most of the time I don’t even stop to ask the Lord for His help. This leads me almost every time to worry, stress and anxiety.
So, how do we fight the urge to rely on ourselves?
Here are 3 practical ways to beat overwhelm:
Pause and breath: In the Bible, the word for this is Selah. How often do we stop ourselves from going down the rabbit hole and just breath and take in the Lord’s presence for our life?
Do the next right thing: After you quiet your heart and mind, just get yourself to the place of doing the next right thing. This is where we rely totally and completely on the Holy Spirit and ask Him what we should do next. We stop looking at the whole picture and just look at the next step in front of us. Scripture says “your word is a lamp for my feet. A light on my path” (Psalm 119:105.) When you think of holding a candle to light your way in the dark, you only need to get the next step right to get to where you are going. So ask Him for His light to guide you.
Pray: Our lifeline is prayer. The Word says to “Pray about everything without ceasing” (Thessalonians 5:17). Ask God to show you how to do it His way. Because our own way is never the best way.
Here’s a prayer to get you started this morning and every morning:
Show me the way. Show me the next right thing. Light my path the way you said you would in Your Word. Show me how to be ____ wife. Show me how to be ______ mom. Show me how to be _____ daughter. Show me how to be _____ sister. Show me how to be _____ friend. Show me how to be _______ neighbor. But most of all show me how to be Yours. We ask you this in Your Mighty and Holy name. Amen.
I believe if we start everyday with this prayer and this posture, we will cut down on the overwhelm and focus on the things that’s matter.
Tell me, what has helped you most with overwhelm in your life?
The other night I could not sleep for anything. I tried lavender oil, melatonin, and listening to a podcast. Then eventually around 4am I made my way to the couch to see if a change of scenery would do the trick. I’ve heard people say, “when you can’t sleep, God wants to talk.” So, I prayed and told God I was listening. Shortly after, I cracked opened a book knowing sometimes that makes me sleepy. And there it was, in those pages, what God wanted to tell me. I’m sure of it.
You see, every day I wake up with a plan/to do list. It is very calculated to be sure that I get everything done. (Like we talked about in last week’s post) I believe, like the Titus 2 verse says, that women should take care of the home, their husband and children. So, my list contains household chores, grocery shopping, dinner prep etc. I desire to be a woman who serves her home, but I also enjoy serving women outside my home. So, my list also contains my nap time hustle, where I am mentoring women, holding virtual bible study, and writing this blog. But in the wee hours of the morning as I read “Grace Not Perfection” by Emily Ley, these words popped off the page:
“Whether you’re seventeen or seventy-five, you can define the life you want to have. Better yet, you can decide how you want to spend your days. God numbered and gave you every single one of those days, so what if you lived each one to it’s fullest?”
Friends, are you just “getting through your days?”
I read that last part and my heart sank. While I don’t believe in all the worldly promotion of self-gratification in “designing your life” (because I believe God calls us to “take up our cross and die to self”), I recognized in that moment that I was hardly living my days in the abundant life God wanted for me. In the dark, I whispered, “Oh Lord. I am so sorry. I have been like a drill sergeant. I just go through my day making sure we get everything done. Kids dressed, fed, chores, “go play”, lunch, naps, dinner, baths, read, bed. Repeat. I have done nothing other than checked off the boxes for my kids until they go to bed. I have just pushed them along the assembly line of my day to get to the next thing. That is not the life you want for me as a mother. And that is not the life you want for them as my children! They’ve seen the importance of getting things done and cleaning up after themselves but not the importance of YOU!”
I realized that night that I have become like Martha in the story of Martha and Mary. When Jesus came to visit, Martha prepared and did everything on the to do list while Mary sat at Jesus’ feet. Martha served Jesus but she missed resting in Him like Mary did. In my physical unrest at 4 in the morning, God also showed me my spiritual unrest that I was living out during the day.
Emily Ley continued in her book with a mission statement of the fulfilled life she wanted. Where Emily may or may not have asked God what He wanted her days to look like, I knew it was important for me to prayerfully ask God to help me write the mission statement he wanted for my life. He controls time and I know He can make the most of my days and this is what came of it…
My Mission Statement
The Lord wants me to have free time in my days to enjoy and soak in my babies. He wants me to create memories for all of us that last a lifetime. He wants me to pray with them every day and learn about Jesus alongside them. He wants me to play with them and create smiles. He wants me to invest in my children’s learning and teach them everything from a biblical world view. He wants me to work at most 20 hours a week so that my husband and children know they are my priority. He wants me to have a clean home and have my children help so they learn responsibility and learn the importance of taking care of things. He wants us to eat dinner as a family. He wants me to be rested so that I have energy to give to my husband. The Lord wants me to make my husband feel important, so when he is home everything else gets put away unless we both decide otherwise. He wants my work to inspire my kids to pursue the passions He places in their hearts. He wants me to leave a legacy that says “her joy was found in Christ.”
Aren’t His plans SO GOOD?
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. -Jeremiah 29:11
After I wrote that out, I wanted to take it a step further than the book did and apply it to my daily life.
Find joy in the morning– wake up before the kids and sit with Jesus. Whether it’s to worship, read scripture, journal, pray or if time allows all of the above, this is the time to find joy in the Lord and let it continue throughout the day.
Manage the home- Set aside an hour a day to get a part of the house straightened and cleaned with the kids.
Teach– find a teaching rhythm and curriculum that puts God first and doesn’t take over 3 hours a day so that our days are not consumed with homeschooling.
Play- Set aside 2 hours a day for real play time when I can be totally present to enjoy the kids.
Work- Set aside 1-2 hours each day to pursue my God given passions serving others.
Rest- Set aside rest time daily. Jesus went off and rested. God rested. I also need rest to serve my husband, my children, and others well.
This list is now the barometer for anything that goes on my planner. This will also make decision-making much easier with hard no’s or hard yes’s when I’m given opportunities.
Friends, I know the Lord wants to lead and guide each of us. His way is better than ours. When we just focus on the to-do’s and what we think we need to do, we miss out on the blessings God puts right in front of us and the abundant life He wants us to have in Him. The world tells us to live a life of burn out and distraction but that is not God’s way. Martha and Mary show us that:
Luke 10:38-42: As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the LORD’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “LORD, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the LORD answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed-or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
The busy life is just another one of Satan schemes. Instead, if we all rested in Him a little more and found joy in Him and those we love, I believe we’d actually be living the life He meant for us.
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John 10:10 (KJV)
Now it’s your turn to write a mission statement and to-do list letting the Lord lead! Then share below in the comments or email me how it’s helped you! I’d love to know.